le ruban blanc

just two days ago, someone told me this story, something that she heard from the radio, which i made me feel like posting it up here. it goes as something like this;

Do you know that one of the most googled sentence in google is actually 'how to forget someone'. and all around the world, in each passing day, there are people out there trying to forget about other people and would search at every nook and cranny for the remedy to miraculously blank out a certain past or someone in their lives. hence one of the most googled sentence 'how to forget someone'. as we all know that google would most often continue the sentence for us before it being fully typed out. but here's the thing, when you actually start typing 'how to forg...' another sentence would then appear ' how to forgive yourself' instead of 'how to forget someone'. perhaps the notion behind this story is that, as common as it may sound 'forgetting someone' is usually near to impossible unless you gotten yourself a head trauma and lost your memory. not to mention the execution of effort to forget someone on purpose also denote the impossibility of not 'remembering', as that person must have been a rather significant someone in your life for you to want to consciously 'unremember' him or her. hence it is better to 'forgive yourself' than to 'forget someone'. or that there are far more people that are interested in 'forgiving yourself' than 'forgetting someone'. :)

so being somewhat curious, i actually attempted to type 'how to forg..' and the first sentence that comes out is..... it's still 'how to forget someone' and 'how to forgive yourself' only comes after 'how to forgive... *a dozen other people*'.

putting the validity of this story aside, i wonder at how much truth or reason there is in this 'forgetting and forgiving story'. whether is there a link between the former and the latter.

i guess that if it was posed as a random question, some might even deny it upfront while secretly having been googled it up in the past in front of their computers when no one is around, when they are truly alone. while the slight embarrassment crept up as you consciously type the letters on how to forget...
as embarrassing as it may be to some people, it certainly takes some form of courage to actually google up these words on how to forget someone. however silly or unnecessary it may be in reality, the sense of the urgency felt at that time won over any after thoughts that may have occurred at a later time. but back to the rationality of this simple story, so whats the link? why do i have to learn to forgive myself if i ever felt the need to forget someone? i wonder..

of course the most ideal outcome would be to forget about someone in a blink of an eye.. be it an estranged lover or someone that had done you a great deal of harm.. vice versa, it could be anything at all. i think that the most crucial thing here does not lie in whether or not we remember someone but rather on how we feel about them as time goes by. it's not just about the significant people in our lives, we would always remember the insignificant people or event in our lives purely due to memory. but it doesn't bother us, does it?

perhaps this is a rather subjective topic, rather modified by individual's mind suited to serve only in certain occasions. perhaps this short random story does ring true on some individuals, that it is better to forgive yourself than to forget about someone. however they may want to see it. or perhaps it is to forgive yourself for the fact that you are never gonna forget about that certain someone, hence save up the googling. i don't have a strong opinion on this one. all i see is just something rather random. a random "food for thought" that may not be relevant in our daily lives. as it encourages us to pick the latter when faced with the former.